The Hunky Husband Survey...


What is his name? Brian

How long have you been married? 6 years

How long did you date? 8 months from beginning to date to marriage

How old is he? 28

Who eats more? Wish I could say Brian, b/c he eats larger portions per meal, but I bet over the coarse of the day we're either about the same, or maybe I eat more.....oh no, I don't EVEN want to find out!

Who said I love you first? I really wanted to, and I think I did, but it really may have been Brian since I don't think I would have let myself be that vulnerable.

Who is taller? Brian, by about 4-5 inches

Who sings better? I'd like to say me, b/c I was in choir and I know how to read music, but Brian carries a tune better.

Who is smarter? Definitely Brian, why do you think he's the one at MIT! And he just loves to learn. All the studying he does has nothing to do with getting a good grade, he genuinely loves to learn and so will study or read for hours on end!

Whose temper is worse? I'd say we're about the same, but over all he maintains his better than I do!

Who does the laundry? We both do

Who does the dishes? Mostly me, but we both do

Who sleeps on the right side of the bed? facing the bed, Brian

Who pays the bills? Brian

Who mows the lawn? What lawn? Wish we had one of our own.

Who cooks dinner? We both do

Who drives when you are together? Mostly Brian, but sometimes I take the wheel

Who is more stubborn? I'd have to say we're about equal

Who is the first to admit when they are wrong? we both do

Whose parents do you see the most? Mine

Who proposed? Brian begs to differ, but it was totally me. You decide...."Brian, I won't regret not serving my mission if you marry me." He did "formally" propose though, so I guess it's a tie.

Who has more friends? Used to be me, but now it's probably Brian b/c of the 72 study groups he meets with and and the 57 functions he attends each month.

Who has more siblings? we both have 4 siblings, but he has more brothers

Who wears the pants in the family? I'd like to say we're equal, but lets face it, I pretty much don't do things unless I have his permission first. So, I'd have to say Brian. As far as the kids are concerned, I totally wear the pants, and probably make Brian feel awkward sometimes by telling him what to do. After all, he is the one at MIT.......

One more thing....

After re-reading my post I had a thought. After watching "Evan Almighty", Brian and I talked a bout one of the lessons we learned from it. Hey, good things can come from Hollywood. After Evan's wife leaves with the kids she is approached by what she thinks is a waiter in a restaurant, who is really God in the movie, and after talking for a minute with God about her prayer He tells her, "When you pray for patience, do you think God just gives you patience, or do you think he gives you opportunities to be patient?" "When you pray to become closer as a family, do you think He makes you closer, or gives you opportunities to grow closer?" (All paraphrased...)

So, when I said at the end of my post that I wish I could just learn my lessons and move on, that's what I was referring to. It's powerful and motivating, but harder said than done, as always. I just want to learn patience and move on, you know, have the experiences, learn from them and then have my kids obey from then on! I know it doesn't work this way, a lot of times b/c we need growth, a lot of times b/c everyone has their own agency. It was just a great lesson to learn, in a way I haven't learned it before. God will give me opportunities to be a good mom, be patient, learn to discipline with love and boundaries, etc. But, I must embrace those opportunities in order for this to work. That's where my flaw lies. I recognize the opportunities, I'm just often too tired to angry to practice that patience... Anyway, had to throw that in there.